Monday, April 27, 2009


A very good friend sent this to me...

I was shocked, confused, bewildered
As I entered Heaven's door,
Not by the beauty of it all,
Nor the lights or its decor.

But it was the folks in Heaven
Who made me sputter and gasp--
The thieves, the liars, the sinners,
The alcoholics and the trash.

There stood the kid from seventh grade
Who swiped my lunch money! twice.
Next to him was my old neighbor
Who never said anything nice.

Herb, who I always thought
Was rotting away in hell,
Was sitting pretty on cloud nine,
Looking incredibly well.

I nudged Jesus, 'What's the deal?
I would love to hear Your take.
How did all these sinners get up here?
God must have made a mistake.

'And why's everyone so quiet,
So somber - give me a clue.'
'Hush, child,' He said, 'they're all in shock.
No one thought they'd be seeing you.'


Remember...Just going to church doesn't make you a Christian
any more than standing in your garage makes you a car .

Every saint has a PAST...
Every sinner has a FUTURE!

Blessings to all!


By Maya Angelou

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ
That a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not shouting 'I'm
clean living,'
I'm whispering 'I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on.

When I say.. 'I am a Christian' I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I still feel the sting of pain...
I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner Who received God's good grace, somehow!

Blessings to all!

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Problems in relationships

As long as there are humans in the earth there will be problems in relationships.

Let’s talk about a few problems and possibly some solutions in relationships…

I would like to speak to current and future marriages. First let me applaud both of you for coming together as one. Second let me plant this seed; always remember what made you commit to each other. Third remember that marriage is God breathed, and He said… Matthew 19:6… so then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

What are some of the reasons marriages suffer?

Some suffer because one or both involved parties made a commitment in word ONLY… but it was far from their heart. A marriage of this type will suffer destruction. Where there is no true commitment, there will be no success. If this is you and you haven’t made that final step, please take a closer look before you damage yours or another’s life. Run!!! It’s better to be hurt for a moment than to be hurt over many years.

Another marriage may suffer because they got together for the wrong reasons; he is so handsome or she is so beautiful. Let me plant a seed of Wisdom! Outer beauty will fade, it’s important to know the real man or woman, and then choose. I believe we are impacted by our surrounding; the five senses are in action in this marriage… what we see, hear, smell, taste and touch moves us in a certain direction. If you see these activities in your man or woman toward anyone other than you before marriage, be strong, cry your eyes out, but be willing to cut your losses and run away. If you stay… you will suffer for years to come. God made someone to love you just the way you are.

A final marriage may suffer because we fail to give 100% of ourselves to each other. Don’t listen to the 50/50 crowd; God said… 1 Corinthians 7:4 the wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. In other words, when a man and a woman are joined together in marriage they give up all individual rights, they are one. This is tough for a large number of marriages… in or out of the church. Just because you are a Christian or you go to church doesn’t mean this want befall you, take a look around, it’s happening to everyone. Why? The quick answer is disobedience… but that’s a bit too quick! We tend to behave in the fashion of those we keep company with, be it good or not so good. We must learn to disagree fairly! If things get a bit heated and you’re unable to agree on a solution, find a counselor to assist before things get to out of hand. Always consider the other persons feelings; never result to name calling, agree peacefully to work toward a solution. Take each other out occasionally, and re-ignite that first love. Don’t allow problems to ruin your relationship.


When marriages break down… a chain of events happen; some are left with almost nothing to start over… others may be able to start, but the children are the ones who suffers most. We need fathers to step up and take responsibility for their children. The mother’s for the most part has been the glue for many years, but our children need more.

Our nation is suffering greatly because of a lack of positive fathers or father figures in our children lives. When you divorce the father or mother, the children remain both parties responsibility.

Men, let me talk to you for a moment! Whether you know it or not you are a needed part of your child or children lives. They really desire to be validated by you; don’t let another man or woman show the love to your child or children that should come from you. I can say this – they can and will make it through life without you. God allowed you to neglect them; you’re having fun in the streets while your child or children are suffering from a failure of the father to show love. Love is an action word, its spelled TIME! They just want some of your TIME.

I’m calling for all "True Fathers" to get in position… give their children what’s right not what’s left.

Blessings to all!

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Enablers will pay a great price

Proverbs 22:6 (New International Version)
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

How did we arrive to where we are?

Let’s take a quick life walk…

People who work for what they obtain understand the value of a dollar. Nothing seems to come easy to them; it’s always an up hill battle. When they arrive to their life long destination of greatness a great foundation has been established. In other words, their worth is priceless. When you arrive in this manner, what you gain will carry you through life. Your work ethic will take you to unimaginable places.

People who gained what they have from someone else’s labor and fail to maintain what has been entrusted to them will eventually lose everything. The reason is… they could care less about the value of a dollar. This type of person lives for the moment! They are often more concerned with how they look to others rather than planning for the future. They are the takers of the world, but rarely do they ever give back unless it benefits them. They leave home for a short period of time, but quickly return to safety with mom and dad or just mom because they are mostly to blame for their children’s actions.

People who gain wealth and then work hard to maintain what has been entrusted them are pillars of life. They watched those who were prospering around them, learned what worked and what didn’t, made mental notes until it was time to put life’s lessons into action. These are mountain movers! They care not only about themselves but others as well. They are what I call “God sent!” When God is in a person nothing is too hard! These are well coached children; they are the builders of the world. You can see greatness all over them! Parents glow at their very presence. Note… it’s not about how much money these make, it’s about how many lives they positively impact. They are the givers of life.

While in the military I can recall a soldier assigned to my unit that came from a wealthy family. Unknown to me or my superiors a deal was made between the soldier and his family… If he completed three years of military service with an honorable discharge he would receive a lump sum of money. This was one of the worse soldiers I have ever met in my twenty plus years of military service. He stayed in trouble! It wasn’t until I finally decided to kick him out of the military that he begged to stay because of the deal he and his family had made. To make a long story short I aloud him to remain in the military, but I drilled him into a model soldier. After he left the military with the honorable discharge, He and his family wrote back to thank me for placing their son on the right path. I not only shaped him as a soldier, but as a young man for life. The point here is I completed the training that should have been completed by the parents.

Parents, if you care? Please don’t give your children everything they desire without first validating its cost. Make them work for what they obtain! If a child’s room is dirty, if they don’t take initiative, don’t reward them. Many of our children go through unnecessary life challenges because we as parents fail to take the necessary steps to properly train. The real truth will show up later in life.

Some children are well trained and equipped to take the paths of success, but later fall into traps of discord causing them to get off course. If you have provided good guidance they will get back on track. But sadly, many children are unequipped to handle even the smallest of problems they will experience in life. This is a parent problem! We do our children a disservice by allowing them to dictate their own life rather then being mom or dad.

Finally, when you have provided well for your children; you’ve disciplined them; taught them, now allow them to show that they are learning by giving space to enter this evil world. They may venture off course, don’t panic! If you taught them well they will recover and make you proud. A good parent “Love at all times.”

Proverbs 13:24 (New International Version)
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.

Blessings to all!

Friday, April 17, 2009

"Who I Am Makes a Difference"

I wanted to pass this along to let each of you know how knowing you guy's has affected my life. This is truly a heartfelt keep a tissue on hand. I am so blessed to have had each of you guy's in my life.....

Be forever Blessed!!!!


Blessings to ALL!!!

Thursday, April 16, 2009


Story sent to me...touched my heart.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who had been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my 3 children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, are you well?" She asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that late nights call or surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.

My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me.

A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. “Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation-- nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" Asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place where mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless I paid for two plates -- one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me." "I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I love you," and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

Somebody said it takes about 6 weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby. Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct. . Somebody never took a 3-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring . . . Somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.

Somebody said good mothers never raise their voices. . Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother. Somebody never helped a 4th grader with his math.

Somebody said you can’t love the 5th child as much as you love the first ...Somebody doesn't have 5 children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books. . Somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.... Somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the 1st day of kindergarten or on a plane headed for military boot camp.

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back . . . Somebody never organized 7 giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married...Somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son- or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home ... Somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her. . Somebody isn't a mother.

Blessings to all!

Saturday, April 04, 2009

Problems in the home

Proverbs 19:13 - 14 (New King James Version)

13. A foolish son is the ruin of his father, and the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.

14. Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.

Criswell Center for Biblical Studies notes…

19:13 the two clauses of this verse express the ingredients of a miserable home life: a foolish or misbehaving son and a nagging or ill-tempered wife. “Ruin” in Hebrew is a plural form, nothing the great and continued sorrow and distress which a “foolish son” brings upon his father. When one has rain on a bad roof, he cannot sit, stand, work, or sleep without the continual nuisance of being exposed to the “dripping,” which interrupts a man’s household comfort and wears away his nerves. In other words, a wife’s nagging drives her husband away. A traditional Arab proverb expresses these ingredients for an uninhabitable house: the leakage of rain (tak, Arab.), a woman’s nagging (nag, Arab.), and bugs (bak, Arab.). The “foolish son” may be cast out (Deut. 21:18), but the “contentions of a wife” must be endured (Matt. 5:32; 19:9). How often the foolish son and contentious wife are found together under one roof. When the wife disputes her husband’s authority whether openly or privately, when a mother sides with her offspring against the father whether in decision or discipline, the effect upon all is catastrophic. Children in such a home grow up in virtual lawlessness, despising the authority of the ineffective father and defying the correction of a domineering mother.

Criswell Center for Biblical Studies notes…

19:14 “Houses and riches,” which in themselves are not the assurance of happiness, may come to man by matter of course as an ancestral inheritance. However, a “prudent wife” comes not by matter of chance or descent but directly from the Lord (cf. 18:22; Gen. 24:14). The word “prudent” describes not only her wise governing of the household (31:27) but also the godly wisdom (8:12) which makes her a joy and strength to her husband (18:22; 31:11, 23, 28) rather than his trouble and disgrace.

Jamieson, Fausset & Brown commentary notes…
A contrast of men's gifts and God's, who, though author of both blessings, confers the latter by His more special providence. And--or, "but," implying that the evils of Pro 19:13 are only avoided by His care.

Blessings to all!