Problems in relationships

As long as there are humans in the earth there will be problems in relationships.

Let’s talk about a few problems and possibly some solutions in relationships…

I would like to speak to current and future marriages. First let me applaud both of you for coming together as one. Second let me plant this seed; always remember what made you commit to each other. Third remember that marriage is God breathed, and He said… Matthew 19:6… so then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

What are some of the reasons marriages suffer?

Some suffer because one or both involved parties made a commitment in word ONLY… but it was far from their heart. A marriage of this type will suffer destruction. Where there is no true commitment, there will be no success. If this is you and you haven’t made that final step, please take a closer look before you damage yours or another’s life. Run!!! It’s better to be hurt for a moment than to be hurt over many years.

Another marriage may suffer because they got together for the wrong reasons; he is so handsome or she is so beautiful. Let me plant a seed of Wisdom! Outer beauty will fade, it’s important to know the real man or woman, and then choose. I believe we are impacted by our surrounding; the five senses are in action in this marriage… what we see, hear, smell, taste and touch moves us in a certain direction. If you see these activities in your man or woman toward anyone other than you before marriage, be strong, cry your eyes out, but be willing to cut your losses and run away. If you stay… you will suffer for years to come. God made someone to love you just the way you are.


A final marriage may suffer because we fail to give 100% of ourselves to each other. Don’t listen to the 50/50 crowd; God said… 1 Corinthians 7:4 the wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. In other words, when a man and a woman are joined together in marriage they give up all individual rights, they are one. This is tough for a large number of marriages… in or out of the church. Just because you are a Christian or you go to church doesn’t mean this want befall you, take a look around, it’s happening to everyone. Why? The quick answer is disobedience… but that’s a bit too quick! We tend to behave in the fashion of those we keep company with, be it good or not so good. We must learn to disagree fairly! If things get a bit heated and you’re unable to agree on a solution, find a counselor to assist before things get to out of hand. Always consider the other persons feelings; never result to name calling, agree peacefully to work toward a solution. Take each other out occasionally, and re-ignite that first love. Don’t allow problems to ruin your relationship.


Finally,

When marriages break down… a chain of events happen; some are left with almost nothing to start over… others may be able to start, but the children are the ones who suffers most. We need fathers to step up and take responsibility for their children. The mother’s for the most part has been the glue for many years, but our children need more.

Our nation is suffering greatly because of a lack of positive fathers or father figures in our children lives. When you divorce the father or mother, the children remain both parties responsibility.

Men, let me talk to you for a moment! Whether you know it or not you are a needed part of your child or children lives. They really desire to be validated by you; don’t let another man or woman show the love to your child or children that should come from you. I can say this – they can and will make it through life without you. God allowed you to neglect them; you’re having fun in the streets while your child or children are suffering from a failure of the father to show love. Love is an action word, its spelled TIME! They just want some of your TIME.

I’m calling for all "True Fathers" to get in position… give their children what’s right not what’s left.

Blessings to all!
CJ