Why do men dog women?

I added a comment to a BLOG; basically the young lady asked the question, why do men dog women? I responded by saying…

”Good blog entry! First of all, we must define “man.” He is a pursuer by his very nature; unlike woman, who is waiting to be pursued. The problem is, many young men come from broken homes or they were raised by their mother’s only – nothing against single mother’s, most of you ladies do a wonderful job. But the fact remains, everything we obtain in life is taught, and a woman, even if she present her best, can’t teach a young man how to treat a young lady like his father or a father figure can. Bottom line is he needs to see his father or a father figure properly loving his mother or another in order to show that same love.

A large number of our young men had very poor role models growing up; all they know is to pursue a young lady, get what they can get, and go to the next one. This is what they see for the most part; they don’t know how to love, settle down or commit.

So, when you start a relationship, get past the red tape right away! Don’t give in to his pursuit, i.e., don’t give him the prize he’s after. If he is a good young man, he will be willing to wait.

Most young ladies get hurt because they give in too easily, the young man get what he came for, and gone forever. But there is hope! If you find a young man that you desire to build a relationship with, surround him with couples with health relationships – the man can show him how to properly love. But this does take time!”

I would like to go one step further; just as the young man need to be shown how to love, the young lady must be equally trained. As sad is it may sound, a large number of young ladies think that it’s ok to allow the young man to explore other women – as long as he come back to her. While reading this, don’t get mad, I’m making a point here.

The root cause of this thinking “in my opinion” is it’s taught! Wait don’t tune me out yet, I’m going somewhere. Just as the young men have for the most part, very poor role models, the young ladies do too.

Both the young men and women are equally scared. You see, these kids are exposed to so much garbage, and they just take it all in. Little or no guidance is given to them by their mom or dad, and the little they receive come from all the wrong sources. Instead of receiving positive guidance, they gravitate to the one’s who will forever keep them down.

To the young and old men alike, this is my message to you; if you have kids out there, and they don’t live in your current household, go and get them, spent time with them, teach them, they love you so much, even when you treat them like nobodies. Nothing says I love you like “TIME.”

To the young and old women alike, this is my message to you; I know it get hard sometimes, but you got to focus, your little ones are tomorrow’s leaders, and you must be very wise. When the man remove himself from his responsibility, you must stay strong, the well being of the children need to become your focus. I know you get lonely, everyone need to be loved, and I mean everyone, it’s the human makeup. But the children need to be protected; while having fun we produced them, and they didn’t asked to come. Please don’t allow just any guy under your roof to train your child or children, they are watching and learning everything they see.

To all who think that they have been properly trained, this is my message to you; I know we find ourselves looking at the behavior of a large number of children that we know lack guidance, let’s lend a helping hand. Believe it or not, most of the children that live in brokenness are very smart, they just need help. I challenge all to pick one child, just one, and show him or her how to fly. A large number of people are just talking, telling the children they can fly, but they need to see, show them! Please sacrifice some of your time, and invest in someone who could possibly be the very person to help you in the future.

I pray that we would collectively invest in a child, not in our distance future, now! Each time I see a child neglected my heart burn with pain, I can’t do it all, but I will help one child at a time until my earthly journey is complete.

Merry Christmas all!

TWT (Time Will Tell)

CJ